“Reading — like masturbation — is something you do alone and very little in life brings more pleasure.” ― Chloe Thurlow, Katie in Love
I first started masturbating at the age of 13. Yes, I am an early bloomer when it comes to sex. 😂😂😂 However, I was very ashamed at first because honestly, just like conversations about sex are taboo in our African culture- masturbation is also a no go zone.
Growing up in an African religious household, I was made to feel that touching yourself was a sin and very shameful. But being the curious, rebellious human I am, I decided to keep going and see why exactly such a bad thing felt really good.
As you can already tell, I am pro- masturbation. I would advise everybody to do it and incorporate it into their sex life and I’ll explain why.
Being a woman, you are constantly told what to do with your body and how you should live your life and in all honesty, no one will ever know what is best for your body other than you.
I believe in sexual experimentation and exploration as it is one of the aspects of being a wholesome, healthy human being. Here is where masturbation comes to play.
In simple terms, masturbation is stimulating your genitals for sexual pleasure. There is a different feeling that comes from touching yourself, especially when you are fully in the moment during your session.
I for one use masturbation for two reasons;
- Getting rid of any sexual tension I may have
- Learning my body and what exactly I like when it comes to sex
Let me breakdown the second reason as this is why I’m passionate about flicking the bean😉😉😉
When you start your sexual exploration, you need to understand how your body reacts to being touched a certain way and what tickles your fancy. Do you like it fast? Do you like it slow? Do you like pain? These are questions that you will be able to answer when you playing with yourself.
If you have never masturbated before don’t worry, there is never a need to rush when it comes to sex. I’d advise you to start it slow.
Here is an activity you can try out:
Get into your room and set the scene, be it soft music and some candles, whatever you are comfortable with. Remove your clothes and slowly start caressing your body. Be sure to clear your head and be in the moment. Concentrate on your breathing and take it slow. How is your body reacting? How do you feel?
It is normal to feel shy at first, but babes… never feel ashamed of such a natural act. Fun fact, I do it at least once a week and to be honest I love getting to know my body and being able to understand my sexuality.
I would love to hear from you and if you have any questions, I am just a DM away @justnimu