Dear Diary

Dear Readers,

  18/Nov/2017

We flew to Belgium today, we had transit in Amsterdam for an hour. Our final destination was Brussels then my uncle picked us up and it was an hour’s drive to Kemzeke which borders Netherlands, it’s so cute!!!

  20/Nov/2017

We drove to France today! A cute place called Dunkirk, it’s historic and beautiful. When we went there was barely anything open so we just walked along the board walk.

During the second world war, soldiers would wait on this beach for the British to rescue them in extremely harsh weather conditions and even used their cars as boats.

Most of Dunkirk is one way streets and all the architecture is quite similar.

After that we went to Brugge, back in Belgium… which completely took my breath away! It is a very romantic place, boat rides on a canal, swans and beautiful architecture is what I got to experience along with a Belgian waffle I stuffed my face with.

I threw a coin over this bridge, Russian superstition says it’ll bring me back here.

Different parts of Belgium serve different kinds of waffles.

The canal ride takes you past some of the oldest architecture in Belgium!

Belgium is filled with beautiful cathedrals that trace back hundreds of years.

These swans float towards the end of the canal that sits in Brugge.

I do hate to use so many photos, but there is so little my fingers could type to allow you to understand just how beautiful Brugge is.

Belgium has been beautiful thus far and I have more records and photos to share, but I would hardly be a writer if not to leave you in suspense.

More from Belgium and other parts of Europe next Wednesday.

Song of the blog: Too good to be true by RHYS

          -Xoxo, Kiki

 Special Message below.

Dear Kenyans,

We should never slaughter one another for anyone who will remain alright whether you live or die. I am not showing any political preference what so ever, I am however announcing my support for peace and the ability of one to use their rights without it being interfered with by any person from any side of political preference. I believe everyone has every right to express their opinion without blood and violence. We’re all Kenyans, not supporters, tribes, voters, non voters etc etc we are Kenyans first and always. No sweet, smart, tender, human tissue should  ever be ripped apart because we differ.

      – Lots of love, Tatiana Kiara … AKA Kiki.

         – Xoxo, Kiki. (The Kenyan)

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 Announcements:

I will from now on… BE BLOGGING TWICE A WEEK!!!! So Wednesdays and Fridays.

I apologize for not blogging last week, travelling and stuff.

And we danced all night…

Dead readers,

Girls… it is the international day of the girl child and in celebration of that I need to shout out one of the most amazing talented girls I have ever met Beryl Onyancha she showed me today a beautiful level of intelligence, maturity and dedication. She inspired me beyond words and shook me to the bone, lots of love to Beryl.

On with the blog,

For this blog I collaborated with the amazing Valentine Nekesa a very talented designer, her brand is V designs and her work is beautiful. We are working on more projects and I can’t wait to share them with you!

I got this white singlet from mister price and this dress/top from V designs. My chocker is from African swaggy by Aggy This blog’s focus is mainly on the power of Africans through fashion, music and content.

This dress/top Valentine designed is symbolic to me because V breaks the cliche that is, Kenyan designers do African print clothing. Where were from should not determine what we create! Yes, it is important to acknowledge your back ground, but…

Don’t ever do anything because it’s what is expected of you or because it’s what everyone else is doing.

This shirt/dress is asymmetrical which gives it more of a kick, keeps it slightly less plain.

So how’s that for African designed… not African design?!
Later on that day… Gemma, Joseph Kinyoda and I went to Koroga festival. You can all see just how the event unfolded on the Kiara and Gemma vlog out Friday.

It was fantastic, I personally think that it was beautiful that so many people of all ethnic varieties came together to celebrate African musicians and art by Africans as a whole, we need such events, they not only promote culture but love and symbolism. (of course there are a few tweaks).

I am wearing V designs, a similar design to the first dress, this one in my point of view is very pop culture expressive… and that is what Koroga is all about.

Meeting the performers was amazing! So much talent, we were so star struck! But it was amazing that everyone gets to come together and freely be who they are and do what they do. 

People build people by appreciating their efforts. 

Group member from sauti sol. Kenyan pop group.

Member of Benga, African music group.

And so that’s what my day was… Love, experience, friendship, ethnicity, originality, fashion and style.

       -Xoxo, Kiki.

Song of the blog: Issabella – Sauti sol 

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Thank You Joseph Kinyoda my photographer.

Thanks to Valentine Nekesa who is tagged above for these outfits.

Start up now, thanks for giving me the resources for this blog.

NEXT WEEK IS EUROPE BABYYY!!!!

It gets better

Dear readers, 

Life can get toxic and unbearable, it can feel alot like the end of the world. We tend to cling on to the worst moments, we tend to hold on to the people who make us feel insecure and we also bring ourselves down alot. 

I’ve been called enough names, I have been treated badly before and I have allowed it to get to me. But it got to me not because I felt bad about myself but because human beings can be awful. This by no means, means that I am perfect, neither are you, I can admit that I have hurt people before and I’m sure that you have to. 

Despite all this sometimes I have felt really bad about myself.

Sometimes, just sometimes, were our own biggest bullies.

You hurt yourself by not forgiving, by believing you are not beautiful, by clinging on to what’s not working for you.

It’s about falling down and using the experience to elevate yourself and others. 

At the end of a bad day I like to write down what worked, a good moment, and think about that.

Yes, yes it’s only you in this world but honestly your friends can do two things, tear you apart or mold you into something amazing.

Don’t strive to have many friends, strive to have good ones.

Friends that deal with your hormonal imbalance, that make you feel beautiful, that support you, friends you can learn from. 

You’ll be surprised at how much you can accomplish with them by your side and you by theirs.
Fights are normal. Experiences change us as people and it is so hard to adapt to that new version of your friend, this is the point in time where you help him/her reattach the broken pieces no matter how hard it may seem. Even if you can’t recognise who he/she is anymore. Find her/him, reinvent this lost being, be a book help her flip back the pages. Do not tire, they need you.

Hey brother, there’s an endless road to  re-discover.

This inspired my outfit, a day at my friends house.

This white top I got while thrifting went perfectly with a pair of wrap shorts I got at Mister price. I accesorized with my favorite chocker and my two best friends. Go casual!

You should be able to freely be yourself around these people. My friends know me like the back of their hand, they know when I’m fine and when I’m not they know just how to remind me that it gets all better.

That my friends is what we must learn, it gets better, it has to. 

Whatever is happening, it won’t last forever.

Hata hii si ya milele 

This will not last forever.

Remember to remind that to your friends or anyone who may need that advice this week.

Song of the blog: Avicii – Hey Brother.

   -Xoxo, Kiki.

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Straight outta New York.

Dear readers,

We just wrapped up New York fashion week!!! Here are my favorite looks and why they amuse me.

Barbara Fialho in Zac Posen.

Zac never disappoints, whether it’s the Oscars, Emmys or fashion week everyone is on the look out for his designs. I love this piece simply because I feel like Zac transports me back to a time where fashion was different while reminding me that this is still 2017. Sometimes it’s nice to reflect and bring back.

Do you follow Kim Kardashian on Instagram? Did your jaw drop like mine did when this picture dropped? Yes!!! I love an outfit that excudes confidence and power like this one did. Kim is known for her bold fashion choices, this was very Kim, I know for a fact that if your not dressed to fit your personality then your not dressed. Props to Kim K for being Kim K!

Ashley Graham sending some nude shades our way, make up being Fenty beauty by Rihanna!!!! Ashley is one of my favorite models, plus size is beautiful ladies and Ashley is showing that to us, time and time again! She did the cat walk for Micheal Kors, do go see all this on my Instagram linked below. Go Ashley 😘

Bella Thorne! Its fashion! And I love everything that defies normal, Bella is doing just that as always and it makes me so happy! Who walks down the street in that? Fashion is not about rules, be extra! She has inspired me beyond words and she has started a revolution! Watch out I’m about to be extra!

Hailey Baldwin was the perfect model for the Adidas campaign. Adidas is my favorite sports brand and it made me so happy that sports wear is claiming its place in the fashion world and in fashion week. It makes me so happy that I’m having an entire sports edition featuring this guy … he is one of my favorite male models and I cannot wait to work with him.

Well guys, I think I’m done, I hope you saw symbolism in every outfit like I did! Be yourself and thrive at that!

If you want any of the above outfits, follow the designers on Instagram and click the link on their bio.

Till next week,

     -Xoxo, Kiki.

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  YouTube video FRIDAY I’ll put it on here so you can all see it!

 I took none of the pictures  Feautured in this blog.

Song of the blog: Phresh out the runway Rihanna 

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Me time

Dear readers,

We all have crazy lives, we all have a bunch of things we do everyday that give us anxiety, stress or just make us down right tired.

It’s very important to have time for your self and unwind, just take a breather and relax, there is a boat load of ideas I have to help you unwind after a long day of school or work, but here are a few of my favorites:

This picture is from Miss Sofia on we heart it.

Get physical💪
Exercise is undoubtedly an incredible way to unwind, it makes for a great night’s sleep and it is perfect stress relief! But hey I get it, some of you don’t want to come home from a tiring day to do more tiring things but if it scares you so much, try some yoga instead.
Music🎶

This is definitely my personal favorite. Simply laying down with head phones on and your head up in the clouds. I find this so relaxing, I tend to listen to music as I go about my daily duties, but I do appreciate spending time with my playlist and letting my brain float.

Reading📚

Because reading is enjoyable and fundamental.

I love reading, a person who reads lives 1000 lives, it’s nice to slip away and live in a different world for a little bit. So disappear with your favorite book, not only is it great for the brain but it’s an enjoyable practice.

Binge watch your favorite series📺

I personally love the 100, but we all have that one television series that we love! Watch till your eyes fall out! Invite your boys/girls over and order a pizza! Hey, the lazy sky is the limit!

Go to a cafè or restaurant 

Nothing fancy! Dress nice and comfortable, look abit cute just to give yourself a feel good! Get a croissant, do some writing whatever suits your fancy! 

And this is where I talk fashion. Honey, comfort never looked so cute!

Your favorite sweater and your favorite pair of jeans! Add a thin chocker and cute earrings as accessories add a glossy red lip! Easy peasy!!! 
But do remember not to fear uncomfortable days, those are the days we find ourselves. 

          Xoxo, Kiki💋

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I think you know this by now but I still must say, my photographer is Joseph Kinyoda… Instagram @josephkinyoda do follow him.

Thank you to Gisela for gifting me this chocker which is one of my obsessions💖

Mum, thanks for giving me something to write about. 

And to all my readers. THANK YOU!!!

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My youtube channel, Kiara and Gemma launches Friday the 15th of September, stay tuned 😘

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I get it.

Dear readers,

Well I’ve not lived very long, 14 years to be precise. So I don’t know much. I haven’t been through enough to say, but I know for sure that high school has undoubtedly been more difficult than any other phase of my life thus far. 

Losing friends happens to every ‘high schooler’ on the planet and the thing is it’s not just losing a friend by no communication or by just gradually growing distant. It’s always painful, it’s always ugly and it makes us sometimes feel like bad people, it’s not just friends we lose but a lot more. Sometimes I feel like the hardest part about losing someone who was once a friend is having to see them every day. Have you ever felt like that? It’s sad to say that in life, friends hurt me more than everyone else ever could. 

In high school, do you ever feel like your being watched? And that you must do everything right? If you slip up once, everyone hates you and it’s never that big a deal, but everybody is against you, and all you did was slip up once. It’s almost hard to be human.

Assumptions are so very hard to deal with “I did not say that” I’ve had alot of people talk to me about that. It’s too much, and it happens all over the globe my message today is, we as people cannot listen to a third of a conversation and assume that we heard the whole thing. If your not sure what someone may or may not have said about you, ask … It’s not fair to make people feel inferior to you, to make them feel bad, you do not have to be mean, as a reader of my blog I want you to know that no matter who you are or what you’ve done you are a human being and all human beings deserve love, deserve to be treated like the beautiful people that they are.  

Talk don’t yell, understand don’t jump to conclusions, ask don’t assume, love don’t hate.

My point is that many people who are in high school undergo the same things, same scenarios, even worse. But the sad truth is that your probably going to leave high school and have it bad in college, university and so on. I know you’ve heard that before and it is true but just because life is difficult all the time does not mean your problems now are not important. 

In high school and just in life sometimes, people begin to hate you for reasons you will never understand or for something they believe is true, but not everyone will like you. We just need to accept that. 

Don’t allow yourself to be blamed for something you know you did not do. Just dust off and keep walking. 

Be brave little one.

It’s okay to feel bad, but don’t let it break you. Don’t let what other people say define or bother you, no matter how hard it is. It’s only for a little while. Focus on being the best version of yourself you can be, focus on what’s important to you and what makes you happy, focus on what is working out for you, focus on the few people that care about you. And remember to love regardless of what anyone does to you. You do get what you give back. 

It is fine to walk away. Its ok to leave poisonous people, you are allowed to say no without explaining why. You can quit something if you dont really love it you are allowed to start over with someone new you are allowed to fail and try again.

And it’s alright  to not be friends with someone ok? Do not keep someone you think is toxic. It’s hard but all the better choices are hard. Make like Elsa and let it go if it’s bad for you. You do not have to feel bad about it.

 So how about we all just show some love, peace unity and R.E.S.P.E.C.T. (You know the Aretha Franklin song?!)

The hoodie I’m wearing is from Dashiki Pride. It is beautiful and comfortable just enough to make you stand out. 

P.S. You are worth so much.

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 -Xoxo,  Kiki

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Thank you to my photographer Joseph Kinyoda go find his you tube.

Thank you to my readers.

Oh Samiha, Gemma and Tana. 3 of the most important people to me. Thank you❤

MY READERS! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!

Song of the blog: Human by Rag n Bone 

See you next Wednesday! Ciao.

This princess wears T-shirts.

Dear readers,

Here’s the thing with the world today, we as girls and ladies are forced to stick to a certain way of dressing, forced to present ourselves in a certain way, and just meet an expectation set by social standards. Not just for females but for males as well. I have seen this among families in Africa and probably all around the world, this, in fact is not a problem of today’s day and age, because it quite frankly has become alot better in the past couple years, but it has been around for a while. 

But here’s the thing, you don’t have to wear an item because the Kardashians are wearing it. You don’t have to support an ideology because your friends are supporting it and you do not have to conform to something because your parents, peers, leaders or celebrities say you should. Now, respect is very important, do not get me wrong, but I like to say that style is a reflection of your personality, clothing is expressive.

It is important to be respectful however, whether to your parents or to a different culture as much as we stay true to ourselves.

Wear what has a significance to you and your values and what you believe in. Wear what makes you comfortable, not what everyone would rather see you wear. At the end of the day you need to make yourself happy, not make other people happy.

For this blog post, I wore something I found in the Mr.Price men’s section. I do not know what it would be on a guy so if you are a guy and you know, leave a comment below.

This one is for when your in a girly, sexy but boyish and relaxed mood. Because humans are indecisive. Paired with my favorite bracelts and a wrap scarf. You can find some of these on Amazon or at your favorite clothing store.

Who says girls can’t rock things out of the men’s section?

Readers, fashion is about rules, style is about you.

 So I’ve gone on and on with this ‘dress for you’ mumbo jumbo, but what is my look this week signifying? Well… I guess I want to break the cliche that is ‘you can’t look cool if your in a dress!’ And yes I am fully aware I have not established whether or not this item is a dress, but I will call it a dress.

Girls love to say how they are so cool so they hate dresses. But girls, you can create the ‘cool and comfortable’ look with a one piece item.

And note that, you don’t have to wear a type of clothing to prove to people that you are something you know deep down, that you are not. Stay true to who you are.

 So girls and boys, wander off into a different clothing store, a different section, or dye your hair a different color!!! Whatever makes you happy. Do not hold back. 

   Till next week

               -Xoxo, Kiki

Okay so I promised I would reveal why I did not wear shoes in my previous blog post. So Joseph, my photographer, and I were walking to the location for the photo shoot. When we got there my shoe snapped, so he put my shoes in his bag and I went down the stony street bare foot (as if my extremely long skirt and flower crown weren’t distracting enough) 😂😂😂😭😭😭

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Song of the blog: Sit still look pretty, Daya.

I am thankful to my photographer, Joseph Kinyoda for doing a fantastic job @josephkinyoda on Instagram.

I am @Tatiana.kiara 

Lastly, thank you for submitting your QandA questions, continue to do so I’ll answer them soon.