What I think about thinking.

Mental health in general is a topic no one takes very seriously and if so not many are very educated on the topic, it was a very strange topic to me until I realized how many people struggle with these problems including myself.

What stood out to me the most is how our minds are so differently wired, every person has a different way of thinking. I believe it is the same thing with mental health. Do not just assume that it is simple to understand, because brains are wired very differently, do your research and ask your questions in order to be able to think like a whole lot of people, this applies for more than just the topic of mental health. In order to have healthy relationships we should have the ability to think like the other person and see where they are coming from.

Mental illness has taken over our generation and killed so many of us and so many people do not take it seriously, this is because people, social influences and old perceptions have stood in the way of mental illness being taken seriously.

My message to everyone reading this is plain and simple. No one chooses to be depressed or anxious, no one chooses to have an eating disorder or ADHD just like no one chooses to have cancer. Most times it is not even triggered by anything or the death of anyone. It is an illness just like any other illness and it should be treated just like you would treat any other illness.

Now I don’t have tips on overcoming mental illness but I can say a few things. No one on social media cares… so refrain from posting about how “you want to kill yourself” because it has a negative effect on the person seeing it and in the end it will only hurt you more.

Talk to somebody. A friend, an aunt, your mom, dad or even a religious leader. Keeping these things to yourself is so dangerous, bottling things up is a terrible form of self destruction and refusing to cry is just as bad. I need you to remember that even if you don’t think so, someone… at least one person on this planet loves you. Please don’t ever forget that.

Now that I have addressed the ones in pain, everyone else needs to stop thinking depressed people are just ‘lashing out’, people with anxiety disorder are ‘seeking attention’, people with eating disorders should ‘lose weight the right way’ or dyslexic people are ‘looking for an excuse’, because no one ever chooses to be in so much pain, to not have control over their brain or what their brains dictate to their bodies. Educate yourself on the matter before you act like you know.

Ass whoopings and exorcisms do not cure mental illness, bullying and ignorance doesn’t help either.

This topic is so wide because there are so many forms of mental illness and so many ways they effect people so this blog is very broad and applies to hopefully everything. The photos used are photos I found on a we heart it ‘ART’ collection by MA. The other art is credited at the bottom of the illustration.

-Yours truly, Kiara.

Song of the blog: idontwannabeyouanymore by Billie Eilish

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It was soooooo hard to write this but I’m all done now.

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Next blog on Tuesday.

I get it.

Dear readers,

Well I’ve not lived very long, 14 years to be precise. So I don’t know much. I haven’t been through enough to say, but I know for sure that high school has undoubtedly been more difficult than any other phase of my life thus far. 

Losing friends happens to every ‘high schooler’ on the planet and the thing is it’s not just losing a friend by no communication or by just gradually growing distant. It’s always painful, it’s always ugly and it makes us sometimes feel like bad people, it’s not just friends we lose but a lot more. Sometimes I feel like the hardest part about losing someone who was once a friend is having to see them every day. Have you ever felt like that? It’s sad to say that in life, friends hurt me more than everyone else ever could. 

In high school, do you ever feel like your being watched? And that you must do everything right? If you slip up once, everyone hates you and it’s never that big a deal, but everybody is against you, and all you did was slip up once. It’s almost hard to be human.

Assumptions are so very hard to deal with “I did not say that” I’ve had alot of people talk to me about that. It’s too much, and it happens all over the globe my message today is, we as people cannot listen to a third of a conversation and assume that we heard the whole thing. If your not sure what someone may or may not have said about you, ask … It’s not fair to make people feel inferior to you, to make them feel bad, you do not have to be mean, as a reader of my blog I want you to know that no matter who you are or what you’ve done you are a human being and all human beings deserve love, deserve to be treated like the beautiful people that they are.  

Talk don’t yell, understand don’t jump to conclusions, ask don’t assume, love don’t hate.

My point is that many people who are in high school undergo the same things, same scenarios, even worse. But the sad truth is that your probably going to leave high school and have it bad in college, university and so on. I know you’ve heard that before and it is true but just because life is difficult all the time does not mean your problems now are not important. 

In high school and just in life sometimes, people begin to hate you for reasons you will never understand or for something they believe is true, but not everyone will like you. We just need to accept that. 

Don’t allow yourself to be blamed for something you know you did not do. Just dust off and keep walking. 

Be brave little one.

It’s okay to feel bad, but don’t let it break you. Don’t let what other people say define or bother you, no matter how hard it is. It’s only for a little while. Focus on being the best version of yourself you can be, focus on what’s important to you and what makes you happy, focus on what is working out for you, focus on the few people that care about you. And remember to love regardless of what anyone does to you. You do get what you give back. 

It is fine to walk away. Its ok to leave poisonous people, you are allowed to say no without explaining why. You can quit something if you dont really love it you are allowed to start over with someone new you are allowed to fail and try again.

And it’s alright  to not be friends with someone ok? Do not keep someone you think is toxic. It’s hard but all the better choices are hard. Make like Elsa and let it go if it’s bad for you. You do not have to feel bad about it.

 So how about we all just show some love, peace unity and R.E.S.P.E.C.T. (You know the Aretha Franklin song?!)

The hoodie I’m wearing is from Dashiki Pride. It is beautiful and comfortable just enough to make you stand out. 

P.S. You are worth so much.

🌹🌹🌹

 -Xoxo,  Kiki

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Thank you to my readers.

Oh Samiha, Gemma and Tana. 3 of the most important people to me. Thank you❤

MY READERS! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!

Song of the blog: Human by Rag n Bone 

See you next Wednesday! Ciao.