Not my usual kind of blog.

Dear readers,

I know, I am weeks late for this blog but I just got back from Europe and the whole settling in process has been quite the struggle… that and I had no idea what to blog about! But my blogging angel provided me with inspiration! So without further a do:

My mother would tell me tales of the boogie man, he came for little girls and boys who did not eat their vegetables. For such a long period of my life I slept with the light on hoping it would keep the boogie man under my bed, hold my teddy tight, hold my chest and pray that God keep the boogie man away from me.

I am now a teenager, one that loves vegetables and sleeps in pitch darkness, Nevertheless I am haunted still by a monster, multiple in fact. These monsters do not lay beneath our beds, they sit behind their computers and mobile phones. Our mothers do not tell us their tales, they make themselves known to us by pushing their thumbs onto their devices and letter by letter make online statements that tear down our souls and damage our minds, they go by numerous names… the cyber bully, the internet troll, the hacker. Yeah, I have been way too quiet, way too long.

From ugly comments to hacking. Online abuse is never going to be okay, non consensual sharing of an image is not okay, hacking social media accounts is not okay. I speak as a victim of online misogyny, rape and death threats, nasty comments and although I am big supporter of all forms of writing I cannot have another fake story written about me!

I am lucky to have parents that have been very supportive of my life as a blogger and have therefore helped me deal with the whole thing very well, taught me that everything comes with a struggle and I can’t stop doing anything I love because of an encountered problem. But I still can’t be quiet about this. A wonderful ted talk by Jessica Judd inspired me. I just want to address my feelings towards online abuse, maybe you can relate.

If you ask me, I believe that cyber harassment of any form must be taken seriously by law. It is very rarely that people are arrested for cyber abuse, and I mean of any form. The internet is not a safe place, games like blue whale have proved that to us countless times, but why is it that when an instagram account is hacked no one takes it seriously? When a girl is photo shopped and threatened all we offer is pity, Granted, what can we do to stop the trolls? But I strongly believe that, if we stand for a safe internet everyone else will fall in line. I had to write about this because so many of the victims are so young and fragile, it is so easy to break our generation into pieces, so instead of hate comments this week, go tell someone they are beautiful. Secure your accounts, report people who steal content, do your research, be web smart. Most importantly, do not sit back and watch someone’s self esteem be ripped apart by a troll.

Dear socialites,

You have a platform, use it. Take a stand, were all just human beings imprisoned by  our phone screens, might as well do something useful.

-Xoxo, Kiki


Song of the blog: Read all about it by Emeli Sande

I know, this is not how I usually blog but someone had to say it!

On Wednesday I will drop the photo journal of Europe, do be patient editing takes time.

Yes, I am a fashion/lifestyle blogger but I really have not been doing much of that! I see your emails, I must finish with my travel edition and then I have some amazing stuff coming up!!!

Till next week.

 

 

 

Europe, part 2 of 4.

View from the plane as we landed in Marco Polo airport, Venice.

Dear readers,

October 23d 2017.

We flew from Belgium to Venice, Italy  yesterday and today we went around Venezia.

I started my day with a slice of Italian pizza.

Since Venice is a city surrounded by water, there are no cars. Instead people’s main means of transport is water bus! It was amazing how it ran just like a regular bus with stops and tickets and stations despite it being a boat.

One of the water bus’ stops in Venice.

We arrived at St.Marco and it was packed with tourists! But we had a good view of Gondolas and open water.

I took this on the Gondola, this is St Marco.

My view from St.Marco

After having coffee on the pigeon infested St Marco square (note that I have a slight bird phobia so that wasn’t easy to do) we had a gondola ride, and that was the highlight of my trip to Venice!

My Grandmother and I on St.Marco square.

Views from the Gondola

A gondola is a long small boat.

And since we had some time to kill, we got some food and while doing that saw more of Venice.

Me in Venice 

Taking advantage of all the photo opportunities

We then left for Madonna Del Orto, which was where our hotel was, where we witnessed a sunset that was so beautiful it reminded me that even when things come to an end, they can hold beauty.

With that, I end this blog post.

    -Xoxo, Kiki.

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I know! I know! And I’m sorry for not posting for 2 weeks!!!! I’ve been really busy cause I’m still in Europe, but next post is about Paris, that’s me making it up to you guys😉

Id like to thank VSCO for providing me with the resources to edit these pictures and to you guys for reading❤

Any questions??? Comment below.

I get it.

Dear readers,

Well I’ve not lived very long, 14 years to be precise. So I don’t know much. I haven’t been through enough to say, but I know for sure that high school has undoubtedly been more difficult than any other phase of my life thus far. 

Losing friends happens to every ‘high schooler’ on the planet and the thing is it’s not just losing a friend by no communication or by just gradually growing distant. It’s always painful, it’s always ugly and it makes us sometimes feel like bad people, it’s not just friends we lose but a lot more. Sometimes I feel like the hardest part about losing someone who was once a friend is having to see them every day. Have you ever felt like that? It’s sad to say that in life, friends hurt me more than everyone else ever could. 

In high school, do you ever feel like your being watched? And that you must do everything right? If you slip up once, everyone hates you and it’s never that big a deal, but everybody is against you, and all you did was slip up once. It’s almost hard to be human.

Assumptions are so very hard to deal with “I did not say that” I’ve had alot of people talk to me about that. It’s too much, and it happens all over the globe my message today is, we as people cannot listen to a third of a conversation and assume that we heard the whole thing. If your not sure what someone may or may not have said about you, ask … It’s not fair to make people feel inferior to you, to make them feel bad, you do not have to be mean, as a reader of my blog I want you to know that no matter who you are or what you’ve done you are a human being and all human beings deserve love, deserve to be treated like the beautiful people that they are.  

Talk don’t yell, understand don’t jump to conclusions, ask don’t assume, love don’t hate.

My point is that many people who are in high school undergo the same things, same scenarios, even worse. But the sad truth is that your probably going to leave high school and have it bad in college, university and so on. I know you’ve heard that before and it is true but just because life is difficult all the time does not mean your problems now are not important. 

In high school and just in life sometimes, people begin to hate you for reasons you will never understand or for something they believe is true, but not everyone will like you. We just need to accept that. 

Don’t allow yourself to be blamed for something you know you did not do. Just dust off and keep walking. 

Be brave little one.

It’s okay to feel bad, but don’t let it break you. Don’t let what other people say define or bother you, no matter how hard it is. It’s only for a little while. Focus on being the best version of yourself you can be, focus on what’s important to you and what makes you happy, focus on what is working out for you, focus on the few people that care about you. And remember to love regardless of what anyone does to you. You do get what you give back. 

It is fine to walk away. Its ok to leave poisonous people, you are allowed to say no without explaining why. You can quit something if you dont really love it you are allowed to start over with someone new you are allowed to fail and try again.

And it’s alright  to not be friends with someone ok? Do not keep someone you think is toxic. It’s hard but all the better choices are hard. Make like Elsa and let it go if it’s bad for you. You do not have to feel bad about it.

 So how about we all just show some love, peace unity and R.E.S.P.E.C.T. (You know the Aretha Franklin song?!)

The hoodie I’m wearing is from Dashiki Pride. It is beautiful and comfortable just enough to make you stand out. 

P.S. You are worth so much.

🌹🌹🌹

 -Xoxo,  Kiki

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Hope you liked this blog post give it a like if you did! And leave me a comment telling me your thoughts.

Thank you to my photographer Joseph Kinyoda go find his you tube.

Thank you to my readers.

Oh Samiha, Gemma and Tana. 3 of the most important people to me. Thank you❤

MY READERS! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!

Song of the blog: Human by Rag n Bone 

See you next Wednesday! Ciao.

Hi, I’m Tatiana Kiara.

Hey everyone, welcome to this blog post. Finally! I’ve figured it out. What I want to do and why.

This started as a fashion blog, but then I went on and on reading more blogs than usual and I realized that as much as the main idea around my blog is fashion, I want readers of all things Kiki to understand who it is that they are reading, now before you think I’m about to unleash a million revelations about my life, I’m actually just going to keep things subtle. So here’s today’s topic:

Why am I a blogger? And why fashion?

Well, I was always into writing and reading as well, but I never paid much attention to it, I then started an instagram and snap chat style book for events.

So I come home from school, and I’m casually stalking people on Instagram and I went to my mum raving about all sorts of fashion and trends and she goes “write about it.”

As much as she was probably trying to get me to shut up, I created an entire plan on how I can start a blog and be a young blogger yet keep my grades up and have a social life. 

So I turned my passion for fashion and my interest in writing into all things Kiki, and that was difficult, the journey came with its own issues and still does, but keep your head up and just do it.

My main aim for the blog, and the reason I picked fashion is because, I am a very expressive person and I strongly feel like everyone should be. I believe very strongly in this generation as well, yes it comes with its own issues, but didn’t every generation? Let’s just embrace what this generation gave us by expressing our selves through fashion. So that’s the purpose of all things Kiki, to allow us to express our selves through fashion and embrace this generation where fashion has evolved like Cra-zy.

All things Kiki is also a place where people of all body types are appreciated and taken into consideration,  fashion today is mainly about the petite girl but I think it’s important to embrace diversity and celebrate curves! Mostly because I am an African based blogger and that is the standard body type in the continent,  but just cause the girls with curves are being celebrated that does not mean that just because your petite or athletic you can’t be here, the blog’s for everyone. Even boys,  sometimes. And so empowering was also a big reason I started, basically allow everybody to feel like a somebody, and we all know, when you look good, there’s this confidence to you. I want that for my readers.

I wanted to break the cliche that is young people are full of potential but can’t do anything about it yet in Africa, there aren’t many teenage bloggers, singers not even waitresses for extra cash. I want so strongly to prove that just because we are young that by no means determines what our limits are, I’m not saying you can be a 14 year old lawyer, but you don’t need a degree to be a blogger, you tuber, activist, pod caster or photographer. Just be something that is important to you, or work towards something that you love. 

Working hard for something you love is called passion, working hard for something you don’t love is called stress.

So it’s pretty simple, express, embrace, celebrate, empower, achieve.

 That’s what all things Kiki is all about.

Let me know what you think of this blog post in the comments below.

       -Xoxo Kiki.