Not my usual kind of blog.

Dear readers,

I know, I am weeks late for this blog but I just got back from Europe and the whole settling in process has been quite the struggle… that and I had no idea what to blog about! But my blogging angel provided me with inspiration! So without further a do:

My mother would tell me tales of the boogie man, he came for little girls and boys who did not eat their vegetables. For such a long period of my life I slept with the light on hoping it would keep the boogie man under my bed, hold my teddy tight, hold my chest and pray that God keep the boogie man away from me.

I am now a teenager, one that loves vegetables and sleeps in pitch darkness, Nevertheless I am haunted still by a monster, multiple in fact. These monsters do not lay beneath our beds, they sit behind their computers and mobile phones. Our mothers do not tell us their tales, they make themselves known to us by pushing their thumbs onto their devices and letter by letter make online statements that tear down our souls and damage our minds, they go by numerous names… the cyber bully, the internet troll, the hacker. Yeah, I have been way too quiet, way too long.

From ugly comments to hacking. Online abuse is never going to be okay, non consensual sharing of an image is not okay, hacking social media accounts is not okay. I speak as a victim of online misogyny, rape and death threats, nasty comments and although I am big supporter of all forms of writing I cannot have another fake story written about me!

I am lucky to have parents that have been very supportive of my life as a blogger and have therefore helped me deal with the whole thing very well, taught me that everything comes with a struggle and I can’t stop doing anything I love because of an encountered problem. But I still can’t be quiet about this. A wonderful ted talk by Jessica Judd inspired me. I just want to address my feelings towards online abuse, maybe you can relate.

If you ask me, I believe that cyber harassment of any form must be taken seriously by law. It is very rarely that people are arrested for cyber abuse, and I mean of any form. The internet is not a safe place, games like blue whale have proved that to us countless times, but why is it that when an instagram account is hacked no one takes it seriously? When a girl is photo shopped and threatened all we offer is pity, Granted, what can we do to stop the trolls? But I strongly believe that, if we stand for a safe internet everyone else will fall in line. I had to write about this because so many of the victims are so young and fragile, it is so easy to break our generation into pieces, so instead of hate comments this week, go tell someone they are beautiful. Secure your accounts, report people who steal content, do your research, be web smart. Most importantly, do not sit back and watch someone’s self esteem be ripped apart by a troll.

Dear socialites,

You have a platform, use it. Take a stand, were all just human beings imprisoned by  our phone screens, might as well do something useful.

-Xoxo, Kiki


Song of the blog: Read all about it by Emeli Sande

I know, this is not how I usually blog but someone had to say it!

On Wednesday I will drop the photo journal of Europe, do be patient editing takes time.

Yes, I am a fashion/lifestyle blogger but I really have not been doing much of that! I see your emails, I must finish with my travel edition and then I have some amazing stuff coming up!!!

Till next week.