What I think about thinking.

Mental health in general is a topic no one takes very seriously and if so not many are very educated on the topic, it was a very strange topic to me until I realized how many people struggle with these problems including myself.

What stood out to me the most is how our minds are so differently wired, every person has a different way of thinking. I believe it is the same thing with mental health. Do not just assume that it is simple to understand, because brains are wired very differently, do your research and ask your questions in order to be able to think like a whole lot of people, this applies for more than just the topic of mental health. In order to have healthy relationships we should have the ability to think like the other person and see where they are coming from.

Mental illness has taken over our generation and killed so many of us and so many people do not take it seriously, this is because people, social influences and old perceptions have stood in the way of mental illness being taken seriously.

My message to everyone reading this is plain and simple. No one chooses to be depressed or anxious, no one chooses to have an eating disorder or ADHD just like no one chooses to have cancer. Most times it is not even triggered by anything or the death of anyone. It is an illness just like any other illness and it should be treated just like you would treat any other illness.

Now I don’t have tips on overcoming mental illness but I can say a few things. No one on social media cares… so refrain from posting about how “you want to kill yourself” because it has a negative effect on the person seeing it and in the end it will only hurt you more.

Talk to somebody. A friend, an aunt, your mom, dad or even a religious leader. Keeping these things to yourself is so dangerous, bottling things up is a terrible form of self destruction and refusing to cry is just as bad. I need you to remember that even if you don’t think so, someone… at least one person on this planet loves you. Please don’t ever forget that.

Now that I have addressed the ones in pain, everyone else needs to stop thinking depressed people are just ‘lashing out’, people with anxiety disorder are ‘seeking attention’, people with eating disorders should ‘lose weight the right way’ or dyslexic people are ‘looking for an excuse’, because no one ever chooses to be in so much pain, to not have control over their brain or what their brains dictate to their bodies. Educate yourself on the matter before you act like you know.

Ass whoopings and exorcisms do not cure mental illness, bullying and ignorance doesn’t help either.

This topic is so wide because there are so many forms of mental illness and so many ways they effect people so this blog is very broad and applies to hopefully everything. The photos used are photos I found on a we heart it ‘ART’ collection by MA. The other art is credited at the bottom of the illustration.

-Yours truly, Kiara.

Song of the blog: idontwannabeyouanymore by Billie Eilish

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It was soooooo hard to write this but I’m all done now.

My YouTube channel launches on the 7th of April so stay tuned.

Big projects so keep to my Instagram to see what’s happening!

Next blog on Tuesday.

Not my usual kind of blog.

Dear readers,

I know, I am weeks late for this blog but I just got back from Europe and the whole settling in process has been quite the struggle… that and I had no idea what to blog about! But my blogging angel provided me with inspiration! So without further a do:

My mother would tell me tales of the boogie man, he came for little girls and boys who did not eat their vegetables. For such a long period of my life I slept with the light on hoping it would keep the boogie man under my bed, hold my teddy tight, hold my chest and pray that God keep the boogie man away from me.

I am now a teenager, one that loves vegetables and sleeps in pitch darkness, Nevertheless I am haunted still by a monster, multiple in fact. These monsters do not lay beneath our beds, they sit behind their computers and mobile phones. Our mothers do not tell us their tales, they make themselves known to us by pushing their thumbs onto their devices and letter by letter make online statements that tear down our souls and damage our minds, they go by numerous names… the cyber bully, the internet troll, the hacker. Yeah, I have been way too quiet, way too long.

From ugly comments to hacking. Online abuse is never going to be okay, non consensual sharing of an image is not okay, hacking social media accounts is not okay. I speak as a victim of online misogyny, rape and death threats, nasty comments and although I am big supporter of all forms of writing I cannot have another fake story written about me!

I am lucky to have parents that have been very supportive of my life as a blogger and have therefore helped me deal with the whole thing very well, taught me that everything comes with a struggle and I can’t stop doing anything I love because of an encountered problem. But I still can’t be quiet about this. A wonderful ted talk by Jessica Judd inspired me. I just want to address my feelings towards online abuse, maybe you can relate.

If you ask me, I believe that cyber harassment of any form must be taken seriously by law. It is very rarely that people are arrested for cyber abuse, and I mean of any form. The internet is not a safe place, games like blue whale have proved that to us countless times, but why is it that when an instagram account is hacked no one takes it seriously? When a girl is photo shopped and threatened all we offer is pity, Granted, what can we do to stop the trolls? But I strongly believe that, if we stand for a safe internet everyone else will fall in line. I had to write about this because so many of the victims are so young and fragile, it is so easy to break our generation into pieces, so instead of hate comments this week, go tell someone they are beautiful. Secure your accounts, report people who steal content, do your research, be web smart. Most importantly, do not sit back and watch someone’s self esteem be ripped apart by a troll.

Dear socialites,

You have a platform, use it. Take a stand, were all just human beings imprisoned by  our phone screens, might as well do something useful.

-Xoxo, Kiki


Song of the blog: Read all about it by Emeli Sande

I know, this is not how I usually blog but someone had to say it!

On Wednesday I will drop the photo journal of Europe, do be patient editing takes time.

Yes, I am a fashion/lifestyle blogger but I really have not been doing much of that! I see your emails, I must finish with my travel edition and then I have some amazing stuff coming up!!!

Till next week.